PONDER on THIS for Thursday, June 16th, 2011 by Paul Ferrini in THE SILENCE OF THE HEART
"When you act without regard for others, you do not honor yourself. Every time you attack, you have something to defend. You are always looking over your shoulder to see who or what might be sneaking up on you. This is not a particularly satisfying or dignified way to live. Your fearful thoughts and actions call forth the fearful thoughts and actions of others.
These fear-based interactions become institutionalized in your "eye for an eye" system of justice, which perpetuates the cycle of abuse. By making the perpetrator into a victim, you hope to discourage him from brutalizing others in the future. You don't understand that all of his rage comes from his perception of himself as a victim and it is that which you are reinforcing by punishing him. If you want to change the criminal, you must stop punishing him and begin to love him. Nothing else will work."
Paul Ferrini in, "The Silence Of The Heart"
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These fear-based interactions become institutionalized in your "eye for an eye" system of justice, which perpetuates the cycle of abuse. By making the perpetrator into a victim, you hope to discourage him from brutalizing others in the future. You don't understand that all of his rage comes from his perception of himself as a victim and it is that which you are reinforcing by punishing him. If you want to change the criminal, you must stop punishing him and begin to love him. Nothing else will work."
Paul Ferrini in, "The Silence Of The Heart"
For more information about this book visit Amazon.
A FREE service since 1999, "Ponder on This" benefits subscribers, authors, and publishers by including "links" to Amazon.com where subscribers can learn more about the book being quoted, and also purchase it. In all instances these links are provided as a convenience,and do NOT generate any type of compensation for Pondercentral.
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Posted by Jeff Maziarek at 6/15/2011 10:53 PM 
Categories: Power of Positive Thinking, Fear
Tags: Paul Ferrini The Silence of the Heart
Categories: Power of Positive Thinking, Fear
Tags: Paul Ferrini The Silence of the Heart
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