“Your upset over someone else’s behavior is a signal for you rather than them. You have a charge on the issue because you have not come to terms with it yourself. The behavior either reminds you of something about yourself you dislike, or something someone has done in your past you have not come to terms with. (I dated someone who told me she did not like the way I breathed because it reminded her of a former boyfriend she didn’t like—what’s a guy to do).
When you are wigged out by someone else’s behavior, you are in the least optimal position to change them. Instead—and I know it’s really hard—do your best to step back and get your head on straight. Break the momentum of your impulse to get in their face. Then, a few minutes, hours, or days later, when you feel more centered, if you still feel moved to approach them, do so from that position. The results will be infinitely more rewarding for both of you.”
Alan Cohen, in “Why Your Life Sucks…And What You Can Do About It”
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